Have you heard the street wisdom “Less than 10% of people doing this course / at this event / in this class etc will actually succeed”? I disagree. I think it’s closer to 5%.
So why do 90% (or even 95%) fail? What is missing?
In this episode I share with you the no. 1 reason.
And if you’re wondering why I shot this video in my kitchen while cooking dinner….it is linked to the reason. Curious?
To find out more, watch this quick video in this week’s episode of Wonderful Web TV. Your Monday dose of Motivation, Mindset and Marketing.
I’d love to hear your comments and any tips you’d like to share. Share your thoughts below. I’ll come back and join in the conversation.
Cheers
Janet
P.S. Here’s the link to the Shine Online program I mention in the video.
P.P.S. Sorry about the lighting, I shot this video on impulse. The dinner is well lit though!
P.P.S. I’d love to hear your thoughts. I’m away for a few days bush walking in The Blue Mountains of NSW with no computers so I’ll join the conversation tomorrow when I return.
Brian Tracy used to say that only 3% will succeed!
Personally I don’t think you need to get up at 2am every week or month to listen to your mentor. I DO think you need to take action. I know and have worked with a lot of people who go to every course. They would be there every week at 2 am but they will never take action. They are preparing and researching and learning. Yes I think you have to be hungry to succeed and do what it takes, but it would have to be someone extraordinary for me to get up every week at 2 am. 6 am I would absolutely do and I would do 2 am as a one-off but I know that a good night’s sleep does far more for my drive and enthusiasm…
When I look at the hunger to succeed I think you see it best in athletes. Someone with less talent can win because they are more determined.
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Hi Talia,
Believe me I wish it wasn’t at 2am and if it was once a week I probably wouldn’t do it, but once a month I can manage it and its about participating 100% in the program I have committed to. I agree you need to take action on various levels but this is one action of many I’m taking regularly. It is hard because my computer is in the same room our eldest child sleeps so we have to move the family around that night so I can take the call and no wake anyone up. For me this is necessary, because I have committed to myself and to Janet that Im going to take part in everything involved in the course.
I’m curious to know what are your necessary actions you take to succeed in business and how that is going for you?
Vanessa I’d forgotten the extra step of moving your children out of the room too! Fortunately it is only once per month. It’s hard finding a time that suits the majority of people as half the word is always asleep. I love your ethos on participating 100%. I have a similar approach (though not to everything in my life I Must say). In business i say No a lot because if I’m in, I’m in 100%. So if I know I can’t give that, I prefer to say no.
Hey Talia good point that the action you take needs to be moving you forward. Often people think they are taking action by going to events but if they don’t implement then it isn’t the right action. People like Vanessa do both and bring great questions to the mentoring calls that can only come from the experience of implementing. And hey…..I AM extraordinary baby
Of course you are extraordinary Janet!
Vanessa, we all do what works for us. The mentoring and your choice of mentor works for you so I give you full marks for your dedication. It’s simply not right for me at this time.
I focus on keeping myself healthy as my primary goal, which means that the 2 a.m. call wouldn’t work for me. Good luck with your goals Vanessa
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Hi Janet,
Is it my computer or is the video missing?
Claire
Try clearing your cookies Claire
That’s happened to me on another site.
Thanks Marina – I’ve got it now
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I also work with a lot of women helping them define their lives and I have also noticed how inconsistent some are and they continue to repeat the past. Not everyone is hungry and they lack consistency in their delivery.
I am hungry and feel inspired daily to work in my passion, sometimes i have to push through a lot of fear to live my dream as my family rely on me to keep them.
I know what Janet is talking about and agree that if your hungry enough then you will succeed, the only thing i would add is when you add your instincts into the mix with determination, then this is a winning formula.
Thanks again Janet
Good point re the instincts. When assessing if an opportunity is going to be worth my effort (and feed my hunger) I use my intuition every time as the final decider. I also have a list of non-negotiables I assess everything against. I wonder if i have done a video on that?
Thanks Janet. Very timely post. I’ve had enough ‘food’ on the table and in the pantry to not be too hungry. I’ll see you at the feast real soon.
Truth in your humour Paul. Sometimes we need to really face a huge loss to get hungry. Otherwise we get too comfortable! I like the comfortable feeling when things are plodding along and that’s a great thing to aim for. Every time I want to ramp it up to the next level I really need to tap into what I’m really hungry for and then focus 100% until I get it. Watch this space (and yours) as I’m heading towards a ramp up at the moment!
As a qualified naturopathic physician I find the same rule applies with my clients – those that ‘are hungry enough’ to lose weight (yes, I see the irony too!); eliminate all of their irritating symptoms and health problems and be determined to add many years to their lives – are those that consistently follow my advice and then reap the rewards. Those that are not will try to ‘cut costs’ by self-diagnosing and self-medicating from the internet (often with dire results that I am then expected to help them fix); won’t follow advice on healthy eating (or might for a day or day then come up with an excuse why they couldnt continue); and won’t take the prescribed herbal medicines or nutraceuticals due to all the reasons under the sun (and believe me, I’ve heard them all!). After 19 years in the health field, I have learnt to not take responsibility for the actions or non-action of these types of clients and believe they are on their own journey to self-destruction (and they can leave me out of it!). As far as achieiving success goes – I think ‘health’ should be the number one goal. Without our health, financial success has no meaning. Those that desire high quality, long lives with optimum health and wellness need to take action, its as simple as that.
I agree with you Sar, i have many clients that have a lot of financial success but their relationships and health are in tatters. I know when you follow your instincts, this makes all the difference and I feel you do. Thanks for making us aware that health is so important.
Yes Rosina – I totally agree. I have had end-stage cancer patients coming to see me for the first time (So unfortunate that they didnt see me years before) and they are willing to give up all their wealth in return for their lives. All the financial success they have created during their life becomes absolutely meaningless when they realise they wont be around to enjoy it…..and more importantly ….wont be around to enjoy their family and friends. All of a sudden these people are willing to do ANYTHING and give anything in return for a cure for their disease. They are desperate. However, when its end-stage cancer – its extemely unlikely they will survive. LESSON TO YOU ALL – dont overwork in an effort to seek financial success if it means spending less time with your family; don’t try to cut corners with your health by self-diagnosing and self-medicating – seek professional advice from an experienced and well-qualified naturopathic physician that can help you find out what YOUR body needs for optimum health and disease prevention (through correct tests and clinical knowledge ) rather than just guessing what you need and putting your health at risk in the process (and wasting money) and MOST OF ALL – Spend quality time with your loved ones and cherish every moment……ask each of them what they find is most fun in life and do it with them (including your partner) and more importantly, find your own fun!
Sar your comment that you have stopped taking responsibility for other’s failure to take action is a huge lesson. This is something I found very hard to do when I started coaching / mentoring people. I would wake at night worrying about them! Really it comes down to expecting everyone to take responsibility for their own actions and you can only do the best you can and then leave it to them. After all, they may not have found their hunger yet. I often find people will invest n one of my programs, seem as if they are doing nothing and then a year later contact me to say they are now ready to implement….and then they’re on fire. They just needed things to align in their own lives first, and that’s OK.
Yes Janet – I’ve been there too (Waking up at night worrying about my clients) but nowadays I see my role more as a scientist and an educator – a scientist who tests and screens for disease and an educator to guide them with what they need to do to resolve any negative test results i.e. their health problems – but I no longer try to ‘control’ what people do with that information whereas once upon a time I might have felt upset and disappointed if they didnt take my knowledge and advice on board. Now I just believe thats part of their ‘own’ journey and I now sleep much better each night!
I think you can be in the mix of things – doing it – have all the right ingredients, the right recipe and also a bunch of people shouting directions and advice from the rooftops – but if you don’t have faith, that inner knowing that you can do it – I find that is when I fall short and things ‘just don’t taste quite the way I’ve wanted it to’.
Spot on Marina. You need the hunger to do what it takes, and the self belief that if you do “give your all”, that “your all” will be good enough. Often the self belief only comes from taking the risk in the first place.
Three words: Public Phone-box Product
It still inspires ME! Lol
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Shelley you are soooooo y inspiration with how you created that first product. I know I have told that story many times on stage and also on video. Let’s see if we can find somewhere on my blog where we share your story. Have you shared it via Rising Stars Radio? Geez when people hear that story it just blows every excuse out of the water.
thanks Janet
Very timely post as Paul mentioned.
I had my kids over for 2 weeks and because relationships are so important to me and I see them so seldom I decided to take some time off to give them the time I would normally spend on work. Just to realize that they were just taking time off in their busy schedule to come and rest in my house.
Not lifting a finger unless I tell(ask) them to.
All good and well, I did it with love because they work very hard.
Today, I am finding my way through house work and washing to get back to my business. I felt a little deflated, but now I am getting back to it,
Thanks
I know how you feel, i have had the same and note they don’t move much unless to socialize. The thing I take from them coming is, they come and we chat and I love to see them living amazing lives. Don’t feel down, rather look at how amazing they are and what you have achieved in showing them how to deal with life.
I am sure your week will get much better and don’t forget to value yourself in between.
Hi Rosina
Yes I did enjoy it very much just to be able to see their faces and have them in hugging distance and be the mum who does everything, I will enjoy the rest of the week and since I decided I don’t have to clean up all the mess on one day, I can now get back to doing some work as well:)
So Linky it still happens even after they leave home!!! Oh No. Yep time with my kids is one of my non-negotiables and always trumps everything else. Mind you, now they are teenagers I’m a little too uncool top spend too much time with.
LOL, yes, in fact they see the time at home as time out from the many responsibilities they never knew they would take so seriously:)
I did get my act together after your video and the wonderful book I read by John Maxwell about Thinking for a change.
Being uncool is a wonderful time to think back at when your parents were so uncool:)
The teenage years are the years where we recuperate from the intense growing up “they put us through” and learn to give and receive tough love. I found the teen years so exciting and so rewarding.
Then, they move out and they move back in and they move out again:)
But we all grow up together and I am now learning to live in the moment when they are around.
Be nice to them, they choose the nursing home:)
Awesome video this week Janet and loved reading everyone’s comments. The important lesson I’ve learned is that no one else can make you hungry for an outcome – it has to come from somewhere inside. And that’s when you are willing to do what it takes. I remember the moment that I became hungry to make my business succeed – it was March 2011 – I was offered an opportunity I really wanted – it was going to cost $5000 and I didn’t have the money and wasn’t willing to borrow it. The pain of not going to that event was worse than the pain of staying where I was and it took me deep inside to draw on the resources I have and I am mostly willing to do what it takes to achieve my goals. When I am not willing to do something … I have to really ask whether I am serious about that goal – and the answer I always get is NO I am not.
Spot on Julie, if you’re not willing to do what it takes, take a look at yourself and your goal. Often it’s just not right for you (at the moment) . Love how you can pin point the moment you got hungry to succeed
Thanks so much for your video Janet. It has made me realise that I previously had that hunger last year, and I achieved so much in a short space of 6 months for my business, but since then, I lost the hunger, and I didn’t realise it til now. I knew I had lost some serious motivation, and I couldn’t pinpoint exactly why. I was assuming it was just because I had taken too much on and my energy levels had dropped, but now I am realising that I had lost the hunger and drive to achieve my goals also. With watching your video this morning Janet, I feel like something clicked inside me again, so thank you!!
Kathryn wonderful I helped you to “click”. You know, you can’t go flat out all the time. Us entrepreneurs need more breaks than others and we do use an amazing amount of creative energy. Welcome back.
Hunger for me goes in ‘peaks and troughs’. Some days I am eagerly racing through my work with high energy and very ‘hungry’ and other days I find myself ‘grazing’. I am becoming aware that I need to work consistently – like when I am dieting – a little hunger makes you enjoy the meal even more!
Love it “A little hunger makes you enjoy the meal more”
Very timely video, Janet. You remind me that I have some internal work to do to get clear on my personal (internally motivated) goal(s) and _why_ it matters for me to do the work I have planned to undertake. I know I’m hungry but have allowed myself to become distracted by some other things. Time to change that. Thanks again for posting this.
Teramis I have my big why’s written on paper and stuck beside me on my wall as I work. It’s something i need to reconnect with often. This may help you too.
What a wonderfully helpful suggestion. Thanks! I’ll do that immediately.
I also work with a lot of women helping them define their lives and I have also noticed how inconsistent some are and they continue to repeat the past. Not everyone is hungry and they lack consistency in their delivery.
I am hungry and feel inspired daily to work in my passion, sometimes i have to push through a lot of fear to live my dream as my family rely on me to keep them.
I know what Janet is talking about and agree that if your hungry enough then you will succeed, the only thing i would add is when you add your instincts into the mix with determination, then this is a winning formula.
Thanks again Janet
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